When I work with couples and families, I run into one major obstacle. Forgiveness, or lack thereof.....
It is easy to tell someone they are forgiven, but do we really mean it? Why tell someone that you forgive them when you are going to continue to hold the transgression over their head?
Forgiveness is an art. A beautifully transforming art in one's life. True forgiveness allows people to move beyond obstacles that they thought they would have never been able to get past. True forgiveness is moving, passionate, and sought after.
Have you ever told someone you forgave them, yet every time an issue comes up, you go straight back to the issue you were suppose to forgive? I know I have. I personally almost destroyed my marriage, because I did not realize I was punishing my wife for something she had done while we were dating. It took 5 years of marriage to realize that I was doing this. I had not truly forgiven her.
Not forgiving leads to insecurity in your life. You are constantly looking for that issue to pop back up in your life, marriage, job, etc.... You say, I was deeply wounded by someone and it will never happen again. You are right, it should not happen, but we are all human and we make really bad choices. Sometimes these choices effect others. Sometimes they effect us to the point we are unable to function appropriately in life.
Not forgiving people turns into a cancer. It begins to erode all happiness in your life. It sours your outlook on life. You begin to look for people to mistreat you. You begin expect that bad things will happen. Why? Because it has already happened and you have planted the seed of mistrust in people.
Can you live life mistrusting? Can you live life filled with cancer? Research shows that emotional trauma stymies our life and life expectancy. Why choose to live the life of a sickly person? Life can be abundant and I am guessing that you want that.
Go out today and begin to forgive. Forgive all those who have harmed you and forgive yourself. Of course forgiving yourself is a whole other story. We will talk about that one later.
Go live life. Forgive....................
It is easy to tell someone they are forgiven, but do we really mean it? Why tell someone that you forgive them when you are going to continue to hold the transgression over their head?
Forgiveness is an art. A beautifully transforming art in one's life. True forgiveness allows people to move beyond obstacles that they thought they would have never been able to get past. True forgiveness is moving, passionate, and sought after.
Have you ever told someone you forgave them, yet every time an issue comes up, you go straight back to the issue you were suppose to forgive? I know I have. I personally almost destroyed my marriage, because I did not realize I was punishing my wife for something she had done while we were dating. It took 5 years of marriage to realize that I was doing this. I had not truly forgiven her.
Not forgiving leads to insecurity in your life. You are constantly looking for that issue to pop back up in your life, marriage, job, etc.... You say, I was deeply wounded by someone and it will never happen again. You are right, it should not happen, but we are all human and we make really bad choices. Sometimes these choices effect others. Sometimes they effect us to the point we are unable to function appropriately in life.
Not forgiving people turns into a cancer. It begins to erode all happiness in your life. It sours your outlook on life. You begin to look for people to mistreat you. You begin expect that bad things will happen. Why? Because it has already happened and you have planted the seed of mistrust in people.
Can you live life mistrusting? Can you live life filled with cancer? Research shows that emotional trauma stymies our life and life expectancy. Why choose to live the life of a sickly person? Life can be abundant and I am guessing that you want that.
Go out today and begin to forgive. Forgive all those who have harmed you and forgive yourself. Of course forgiving yourself is a whole other story. We will talk about that one later.
Go live life. Forgive....................
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