Have you ever heard someone talk about moving and leaving it all behind? They move and the same stuff happens all over again. What about leaving it all behind? Where did that go? Leaving it all behind is a great idea, yet there is one thing we forget. You take yourself with you.
We unfortunately can not separate from ourselves and move. If we did, we would be leaving past experiences and memories behind. These are the very experiences that shape and mold us. These are what sometimes keep us going when we think that we can not accomplish that task ahead of us. , , if we always left it behind, what would be the point of living?
So you move away and you think you have left the problems. What about the memories of the problems? Did you forgive the people involved in those problems? Did you release all of the anger and frustration that caused you to run in the first place? If not, you have just brought the problems with you. Not only have you hidden from the problems, but now you are in just plain denial that anything has happened.
Don't get me wrong, fresh starts are great, but unless you fix the original problem, you will be right back where you started. Lets say you had a bad marriage and you and your spouse decide to separate and move on. The next time you start a relationship do you ask yourself what has changed about me? What was wrong with me in the last marriage?
Most of the time, we want to place the blame on someone else. It is so much easier to place blame on someone else rather than face our own challenges and faults. If I point my finger at you I then take the heat off of me, which is so much easier to do.
Blaming is addictive. Yes, down right addictive. It becomes an easy way to escape our fears and our realities. Just like alcohol or drugs, blaming can take you down a path of destruction. That path will destroy relationships, because you are always looking for an out. Just know that finding fault in others is way too easy, yet finding fault in yourself and changing is one of the most challenging things you will ever do.
So remember, the next time you begin to think that moving away is the next greatest answer, start questioning how you believe things will be better? Don't forget, in addition to your furniture, you are also packing up you emotional baggage. Besides, wouldn't it be better to fix yourself than run?
We unfortunately can not separate from ourselves and move. If we did, we would be leaving past experiences and memories behind. These are the very experiences that shape and mold us. These are what sometimes keep us going when we think that we can not accomplish that task ahead of us. , , if we always left it behind, what would be the point of living?
So you move away and you think you have left the problems. What about the memories of the problems? Did you forgive the people involved in those problems? Did you release all of the anger and frustration that caused you to run in the first place? If not, you have just brought the problems with you. Not only have you hidden from the problems, but now you are in just plain denial that anything has happened.
Don't get me wrong, fresh starts are great, but unless you fix the original problem, you will be right back where you started. Lets say you had a bad marriage and you and your spouse decide to separate and move on. The next time you start a relationship do you ask yourself what has changed about me? What was wrong with me in the last marriage?
Most of the time, we want to place the blame on someone else. It is so much easier to place blame on someone else rather than face our own challenges and faults. If I point my finger at you I then take the heat off of me, which is so much easier to do.
Blaming is addictive. Yes, down right addictive. It becomes an easy way to escape our fears and our realities. Just like alcohol or drugs, blaming can take you down a path of destruction. That path will destroy relationships, because you are always looking for an out. Just know that finding fault in others is way too easy, yet finding fault in yourself and changing is one of the most challenging things you will ever do.
So remember, the next time you begin to think that moving away is the next greatest answer, start questioning how you believe things will be better? Don't forget, in addition to your furniture, you are also packing up you emotional baggage. Besides, wouldn't it be better to fix yourself than run?
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